Archive for January, 2011

I have recently completed an intensive on the ‘Law of Attraction’ which was most interesting.

Many people who have heard of the ‘Law of Attraction’ through the book ’The Secret’  may have the impression that this is all about making a million dollars just by thinking about it but I believe that this sells the concepts short.

I am delighted to report that, having completed a series of four seminars on the subject that I have found that the concepts are very much aligned with the approach that I have intuitively arrived at (and also through many years of study of various philiosophies and psychological approaches) and have presented in my books and workshops over the past decade.

 For those unfamiliar with the ‘Law of Attraction’ it can be basically defined as ‘whatever you ask for is what you’ll receive’. Now, many might argue that they have been asking to win the lottery for years and it hasn’t showed up, so this whole system must be rubbish but before you throw the baby out with the bath water, I would like to point out that there are quite a few flaws in that line of thinking.

Firstly, few people actually believe, with any confidence, that wealth will come to them. Secondly, they live in a way that denies the possibility of wealth;  i.e. they live with a focus on lack rather than the focus being on success. Many also live with a disregard or even ‘disrespect’ for money then expect it to just arrive. Money is an energy, just like anything else and if you’re seeing it as a ‘missing relative’ , it’s not likely to show up on your doorstep because you simply don’t expect it to.You see only that it is gone.

 This is a small demonstration, in the material arena of the above statement about asking and receiving. Let’s perhaps put it another way. “Whatever you expect, focus on, worry about, obsess about, give all your attention to, will show up in your life’

Which, of course, brings us to anxiety, in relation to this concept. Many believe get the idea that anxiety is something to be ‘overcome’ or ‘gotten rid of’ but  the more you focus on something you dislike or are in conflict with, the more you experience it because it now has all of your attention!

 What the L.O.A. materials approach shows is that when you’re so focussed on that which you don’t want, you actually have your back turned to that which you do want.

So, if we take anxiety as being the thing that you don’t want and relief being the thing that you do want and all of your attention is on how bad/awful/overwhelming your anxiety is, how is it even possible for you to arrive at relief from that perspective? The only way to get to relief is to start heading in the direction of relief and you do so through your thoughts and your thoughts govern how you feel. In other words, if you want to feel relief, you need to turn your thoughts in a direction that brings you that relief. It cannot come to you if you have your back turned to it! In fact, it can’t come to you at all if you’re denying it! You must turn around and start heading towards relief if you want to feel it.

Here’s an example: ‘ This anxiety is ruining my life!’ Does that statement bring any relief from the anxiety you are experiencing? Of course not! It actually makes it worse.

Reaching for a feeling of relief would mean finding a statement that brings that relief, no matter how small. For example, ‘My life needn’t revolve around anxiety. I’ve let it take over. There are other things to do besides fret about anxiety. Now, what is something else I can do today?’

Steering your thoughts into a better space helps you to line up with a feeling of relief. If you learn to do this consistently, you will find that you build skills which help you to shift your focus away from the problem and towards the solution and slowly the solution becomes your main point of focus and because you are feeding it energy, it grows.

Start small. If your statements are too ‘grandiose’ , firstly, you won’t believe them and secondly, you’ll just frustrate yourself if you’ve over-reached and it hasn’t manifested, which will only result in your returning your focus to what you don’t have and you’ll be caught in the loop again. Go for something that you can believe at the moment which soothes you.

I will write more about the L.O.A. approach in future blogs. I will also soon be offering counselling in Melbourne on a one to one basis based on these principles. Any enquiries about counselling please email itzok@netspace.net.au

Meanwhile, do check out the ‘IT Kit’ on this site. It has all of the guidance you need to help you get quickly back on track.

Have a great day!